How to be Happy: Dr. Paula Fellingham

In my career prep class yesterday, I was introduced to an AMAZING woman-

 Dr. Paula Fellingham.

Talk about inspirational. If you want to feel loved, important, and be able push through any adversity that's thrown at you, follow her (and my) philosophy. Hearing someone with such a vision reminded me of my own convictions, some that I forgot for a while as I was stuck in the dumps. Here are some of her amazing thoughts, and you HAVE to read her book called Believe it, Become it! It will "change your DNA" as she says. This isn't just for women, for business persons, or people interested in her website, www.thewin.com (but check it out for reals. Again, life changing). This is for anyone that breaths. 

Here are some of her points made in the lecture on Wednesday afternoon:

No one can offend me without my permission... *Eleanor Roosevelt*

“Don’t let the bad permeate 

you- you can choose what 

stance to take.”

Will power cannot ever 

be taken from you-

even in the most horrible

 circumstances, that is

 the one gift you have.

“NEVER tell yourself or let other people tell you that you’re a terrible person over a mistake you made in the past. Instead, remind yourself of this statement,’I made the best decision I possibly could with the information I had at that time. I have more information now and can thus make a better decision now.’ With this one statement, you recognize the learning experiences of life and find happiness in that learning rather than simply dwelling on the negative.”

“Happy people don’t 

receive one success 

after another- it’s 

just that happy people

 use their outlook to

 brighten their 

perception to gain joy. 

Unhappy people take

 twice as long by 

focusing on the negative 

to obtain the same 

successes as “happy” people.”

8 ways to create joy and confidence

1.  Live in Gratitude

2.  Offer love and kindness

“Let no one ever come to you without leaving them better.” –Mother Theresa

The Paradoxical Commandments

by Dr. Kent M. Keith

1.      People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

2.      If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

3.      If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

4.      The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

5.      Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

6.      The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

7.      People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

8.      What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

9.      People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

10.  Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.

3.  Be flexible and Cheerful

4.  Be passionate about something and DO it!

5.  Be positive  and use positive self-talk and self-prophesies

6.  Ignore your negative thoughts

7.  Eliminate ALL negative expressions

8.  Stop asking bad questions

“What can I do to make myself feel happier right now?”

9. Learn to love! (Your God, Your Fellow man, and YOURSELF)

Gain a life vision- it will change the way you approach conflict and  trials in your life and thus the outcomes of each and every thing you do- you will find purpose. Thanks for your amazing insights Paula!